Flirting...Not Just for Single People

One of the most common complaints from both women and men, is that their love life gets boring. We miss the rush of the period of infatuation when every word, look, touch meant something and felt new. Those looks of newly weds, that makes everyone think the two of you have a secret you aren't letting the rest of the world in on. And the answer to this one...FLIRTING!

Flirting is not just for single ladies trying to catch the eye of the handsome stranger across the room. It works for your handsome husband across the room too! There is an old saying that "foreplay begins in the kitchen" and that's no lie. A love tap here, a wink there...it all sets the mood.

Your husband is sitting in the living room watching sports, sit-com, news, whatever...whisper something suggestive in his ear! Sitting across the dinner table and kids are going crazy? Send a wink and a smirk his way.

Here is why this works:

You are sending him the message that things are a go. So his mind is now focusing on what is going to happen after the kids are all in bed (or when the dishes are done if you are childless). He is now paying attention to your ever move, and that attention, in turn, makes you feel desired and bumps up your confidence for the upcoming evening of fun. By the time you get to the bedroom, things are already steamy.

Another reason it works, it ends the awkward are we/aren't we conversation. At our house, sometimes we just know, and sometimes we have the "do you want to?"/"I will if you want to" conversation, which quite frankly kills the mood. (BTW we each have a pair of "it's not happening tonight" lounge pants. If one partner wears them, then the other knows with out the awkward conversation as well.) This gives a clear signal of what you are expecting, and can work the other way for him as well.

Some women feel silly flirting, but don't! As much as you love the attention shown to you, he loves it too. It boosts his ego. An increase in confidence in both of you is bound to lead to a more exciting love life, because you become less inhibited.

And to think...it could all be started with a wink.