My Long Awaited (I hope!) Return!

Well hello! I promised a new blog and here it is. Now before we go on my blog is meant for people over 18 years of age, and at times includes subject matter that is for adults only.

Okay all the formal stuff aside, today's blog we are going to get into something that might be a little uncomfortable for some people to talk about, but luckily this is a blog, and I'm only asking you to read about it.

Bedroom accessories, bedroom aides or sex toys - whatever you want to call them - are today's topic. Should we or shouldn't we? Now for the sake of this article, we are going to use the term bedroom aide, because accessories sounds like a belt and sex toys is just too lewd for my classy taste.

Now to the important part. The should we or shouldn't we part. Frankly, the Bible doesn't say anything about bedroom aides. Not because they didn't exist. But if you look at the Bible, it mostly tells us what not to do. I think we have to use what the Bible does say as a strainer to get to the bottom of it all.

Number 1, both parties have to be on board. The Bible tells us that in marriage we should honor one another. If one partner is forcing or coercing the other partner to do something they aren't comfortable with, that is not honoring one another. The Bible tells us to fulfill one another's desire, but not at expense of honor.

Number 2, they are aides not replacements. If you get to the point where you only want to use the bedroom aides, and not enjoy your spouse, you have crossed a line. At that point, the aide becomes the "other person". Bedroom aides should increase the enjoyment and fulfillment you have as a couple. The Bible says that we are not to commit adultery, therefore if you are having a "relationship" with a vibrator that you are not having with your husband, (or for man the like) you are cheating.

Number 3, well there is no number 3 (Doesn't it feel like a list should have at least 3 things in it?). That's it. Just remember, you don't just bring this out one evening. Open communication with your spouse is key in all parts of your relationship. If one or both of you want to add bedroom aides to the bedroom, you need to have a discussion and set up guidelines that both parties are comfortable with.

I have put together a list of bedroom aide dos and don'ts. At this time, I am not going to post it in the blog, because some of the content while not raunchy it is detailed. If you are interested in this information, please email me at christianmarriagewild@gmail.com OR send us a message on our Facebook page. Oh yea, and like our Facebook page!